Homophobia V.S. Gay

Do you know what fascinates me? The mindset of the average homophobe. I am fascinated by them.

In my (admittedly short) gay lifespan, I have seen and heard things that one has to sit back and wonder about these ‘proud to be straight’ men. We all know them. We all have ‘friends’ like this. The guy who is always gay bashing and always trying to prove a point that he is completely anti gay. But lets for a moment take a look at this man and try to see who or what he is.

There is an Afrikaans teasing rhyme that homophobes use to make fun of gays. It goes as follows: “Holle teen die muur, Zeo is hier.” I am just using my name in this rhyme to demonstrate it to you (I am also, admittedly, used to this rhyme having my name in it). Translated it means something to the effect of “put your bums against the wall, Zeo is here”.  What this means is that this Homophobe is scared of something that he doesn’t even really understand. The educated will know that not all gay men are interested in fucqing you, some wants to be fucqed and some do both. Hence the terms, Top (fucqer), Bottom (fucqee) and Versatile (fuckeree, does both). So Homophobe, how will keeping your bum against a wall help you when faced with a Bottom? Yes, a gay that wants you shlong-a-long (thank you Ronel).

Also remember that these sexual roles is not determined by the character of the gay man. In our relationship, for example, I am definitely more feminine inclined than Paul, I even think like a woman. But sexually I am a Top. You will also find that in 80% of gay couples, where there is a big guy and a smaller guy, the big one (that you would think is the Top) is the Bottom. So again, how does this rhyme help you Homophobe?

My second issue with that is the fact that you automatically assume that we want to penetrate you. Is that not just a little too much of wishful thinking? Hmmmmmmmmm?

What I have also noticed through the years is that Homophobes tend to think that a gay man WILL want them. Just for because. No there are gay men that do go for straight men. Yes it is true. But this can be said about any sexual kink. Do you meet a blond woman and believe that she is the town bicycle that has slept with the entire Dallas? No you don’t, so why do you assume that any gay guy will want to have sex with you? Firstly I have seen some these homophobes that claim this and the fact that even a blind drunk woman with the knowledge of that this is her last day alive will sleep with them, boggles the mind. What makes you think a gay man will want anything to do with you. We have class, style, brains and a sense of hygiene. It’s not gonna go down so please stop assuming that you are Gods gift. Or is your assumption actually just wishful thinking? Hmmmmmmmm? Me thinks the Lady doth protest too much.

On the topic of comparing gay men to these brute homophobes………..This is almost too easy. Look at them, now back to us. Now look at them again, back to us.

Their shirts are never ironed. As a matter of fact their miss match outfit (and please I am not talking about the ones that has a wife to pick out or iron their clothes) looks like it has climbed out of the washing basket all on its own. Once you get used to the over powering smell of Brutt or Axe (even though a nice smelling man is very sexy, you can also stink of your spray) you will smell the Body Odour that casually mixes with the smell of their piss and cum stained clothing. Yes, of course it is ok for you to recycle your clothing. Especially when you picked up skank last night, at your local Smugglers pub, wearing that same outfit. Then of course the excellent verbal capability. “Wiff, dat, I are wearing a jean pant.” Do I need to even continue?

As a matter of fact the comparison itself can be a blog on its own, so lets not delve too deep into it. After all, I wouldn’t want to give you a complex.

Then of course there is that age old argument about you being a cooler man because you get to see the sexy chick naked………………I am that sexy chicks bff. And what that means is that I actually get to see her naked whenever we go shopping. Not that it does anything for me but I actually do get to see her naked. Not like you that only imagine it. I have even touched her breasts to help her look for lumps or to readjust the girls in the bra. And you know when you are feeling self conscious because you think we are laughing at you……..well we are.

And then of course finally, in 1996 a study was done to try and see what is up (pardon the pun) with Homophobes.

They investigated the role of homosexual arousal in exclusively heterosexual men who admitted negative affect toward homosexual individuals. Participants consisted of a group of homophobic men (n = 35) and a group of non-homophobic men (n = 29); they were assigned to groups on the basis of their scores on the Index of Homophobia (W. W. Hudson & W. A. Ricketts, 1980). The men were exposed to sexually explicit erotic stimuli consisting of heterosexual, male homosexual, and lesbian videotapes, and changes in penile circumference were monitored. They also completed an Aggression Questionnaire (A. H. Buss & M. Perry, 1992). Both groups exhibited increases in penile circumference to the heterosexual and female homosexual videos. Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies.

You see, as gays we have to constantly hear how we are the vermin of the Earth. But if human categories were to be labelled like that, I wonder………....

My mom used to say: “We often hate in other people, that which we hate most in ourselves.”

Mwah!