Three things, all of you know about me by
now.
1 That I am a poof. That means I am gay
2 That I am a Pagan
3 That I recently (on the 13th
of July 2013) got married
So keeping that in mind I want to tell you
a little about arranging our magickal day. The planning wasn’t at all as easy
as what it might have seemed. This entry is not so much about our wedding as
what it is about when it comes to planning a wedding in general. But especially
planning a wedding while keeping point 1 and 2 in mind.
You might think that 1 and 2 is not needed
to be kept in mind but let me just tell you. They are important.
Every step, everyone that you hire, every
venue that you visit, everything will be impacted by these details. Our wedding
(or Handfasting as it is called in Paganism) and reception was both held at the
same venue. A beautiful hall in
Milnerton. The dance floor steps down from the rest of the hall in a kind of
oval shape. The ceremony was held on the dance floor and after that the floor
was cleared for the dancing. Beautiful drapes and fairy lights adorned the
pillars. The ceremony was openly Pagan and a blind man could see the just about
pornographic gay statue on the altar, oh not to mention the two Grooms.
I am telling you this all for a reason. You
have to understand that the caterer, as well as the cash bar and the DJ had to
set up before the time so that they do not interrupt the ceremony. The wedding
started at 17:00. Guests started to arrive by 16:00 (some a little earlier
even). The caterer, bar and DJ had to be set up by the time that the guests
arrived. Thankfully this was all done successfully. The catering staff, bar
staff and DJ was thus going to be there for the ceremony as well. Not to
mention the photographer and video camera person.
Everyone we hired had to be aware of the
fact that this was a gay Pagan wedding. Not because we are over the top
screaming queens, but for practical reasons. Now thankfully we had no issue at all with any of this but can
you imagine your caterer shows up and the in mid ceremony realizes what is
going on. Let’s say your caterer is a serious Bible basher. Can you imagine the
scene that will be caused. I imagine it to be something like this.
Caterer: This is so beautiful. (just
realize that the caterer is standing on side just observing and obviously
talking while the Priestess is doing her thing to the lovely couple)
Priestess: We are here to join these to
souls together.
Caterer: Sjoe the Bride looks butch,, lets
not judge.
Priestess: We your friends and family are here
to witness your vows.
Caterer: Weird that they both wearing the
same suit kind of thing, let not judge
Priestess: John and David do you come here
out……
Caterer: SODOM, GEMORA!!! (at this point
she whips out a bible and screams)
Can you imagine the scene. You have to
inform the people that you will be working with on your BIG day about what they
should and can expect. You don’t want scene’s that could have been avoided.
Rather struggle to find the correct bar, that will be sensitive to all of your
needs, instead of having a freak out at your wedding. Can you imagine the
Bartender is a homophobe and just refuses to serve the happy couple because he
thinks that handing them a drink will make him catch the gay virus and turn
him. Or worse, they pack up and leave because they are offended by your ways.
Again, thankfully none of that happened to
us. We had the most amazing crew on the day that made everything perfect.
For us the BIG disaster happened two weeks
before the wedding when someone broke into our home and stole our wedding rings
(among other things). We re-ordered our rings, but they were not in time for
the wedding. Yes we were crushed, devastated, broken, but it was important to
remember that even though the rings were beautiful, they were but a small part
of the day. We used other rings for the day and in the mean time our rings have
arrived again. We exchanged rings in a Full Moon ritual on Monday night.
When the poop does strike the fan with
regards to your wedding planning, just try to remember that freaking out won’t
solve it. Planning the wedding (that is if you are not using planner) is supposed to be fun and a
time of bonding for you and your partner. Paul and I did everything together.
All the choices were made by the both of us and everything to do with the
wedding was because both of us wanted it to that way.
Okay I am going to admit that I did have professional
help. About a year or two before we got married I bought a book on how to plan
a gay wedding. I read this book cover to cover. A lot of the advise I didn’t
use and some I did, but it helped us. Mel can vouch for me when I say the book
is full of post-it’s, to remind me of things. The book is ‘A Very Pink Wedding’
by Nicola Hill
Paul jokes (sometimes I am not so sure if
he is joking) and tells people that they should rather elope, as it is easier
than planning a wedding. He asked me in the week if I would do it again if we
had a choice. Naturally my response was “yes I would do it again” as stressing
and time consuming as what it was, I would do it again. It was a wedding
straight out of a Disney movie.
xxx
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